These days, I’ve been listening again to the audiobook version of Romance of the Three Kingdoms.
It takes me back to my early twenties, when I was working full-time while looking after my youngest brother — a bright, witty, and truly remarkable boy.
Back then, I was an avid reader — the kind of person who could finish a book a day.
Novels, poems, essays… words were my comfort and my escape.
One day, as I sat reading, my brother suddenly asked:
“Noona, how many times have you read Romance of the Three Kingdoms?”
I paused.
I’d read countless books, yet I realized I had never actually finished that one.
So I answered honestly:
“Not yet.”
He smiled and said something that still echoes in my mind.
“You know, they say you shouldn’t talk seriously with anyone who’s never read The Three Kingdoms.”
I laughed, but his words struck me deeply.
Then he added another line — one I’ll never forget:
“But there’s also another saying — never deal too closely with someone who’s read it more than three times.”
I frowned and asked, “Why’s that?”
He grinned and replied:
“Because by then, they can already read your mind.”
That moment changed something in me.
From then on, I began to see The Three Kingdoms not just as a historical classic,
but as a manual for understanding the human heart.
I once read that even former U.S. President Donald Trump listed it among his essential reads.
Perhaps that’s proof that times change — but human nature does not.
Sometimes the world feels suffocating.
It’s as if the cunning of Cao Cao, the loyalty of Guan Yu, the wisdom of Zhuge Liang,
and the idealism of Liu Bei are still alive —
just in different faces, in modern clothes.
And yet, I often feel a quiet sadness
that so many people today have never read this book —
especially in the Western world,
where the depth and brilliance of this story’s human insight
remain relatively unknown.
So I keep listening to Romance of the Three Kingdoms,
not as a tale of war and strategy,
but as a mirror reflecting human hearts —
a way to understand others, and perhaps, to understand myself again.
🌿 “A book is another eye with which to see the world.
And few books train that eye better than the Romance of the Three Kingdoms.”
-Gloria Lee Christchurch in November 2025









